LGBTQ

Everyone is welcome. We defend the potential of all.

We are an organization dedicated to inclusiveness. We celebrate the diversity of every person who walks through our doors; whether a Big, Little, parent/guardian, employee, board member, or community partner. If you are interested in partnering with us on LGBTQ initiative or simply have additional questions, please contact Tasha Bruns-Notsch (she/her) at 320.310.1276 or Tasha@BigDefenders.org.

 

LGBTQ Ally Badge

In June 2022, Big Brothers Big Sisters of Central Minnesota earned an LGBTQ+ Ally Site Badge of Commitment from Mentor Minnesota. Below are the requirements to earn the badge.
Becoming an inclusive and affirming mentoring program is more than hanging safe zone posters and using personal pronouns. This requires a practice of allyship and leveraging our personal empathy to ensure that young people in our care—especially those on the margins—are safe and cared for.
Big Brothers Big Sisters of Central Minnesota is committed to creating safer and more affirming mentoring services for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and questioning (LGBTQQ) youth and mentors that participate in our program. We strive to follow nationally recognized best practices outlined in the LGBTQ Supplement to the Elements of Effective Practice for MentoringTM. To achieve these standards, BBBS of Central MN participated in a virtual training program and community of practice provided by Dr. Christian Rummell (Mentorist), Nia Clark M.S.W, MENTOR, and MENTOR Minnesota over the course of one year to help guide us in how to put these practices into place. To receive recognition as an LGBTQ+ Ally Site, BBBS of Central MN completed the following requirements, including participation in the training and committing to continue this work toward a culture of inclusion for LGBTQ+ youth:
    • Participation of at least two staff in the entire training series (Session topics were: Orientation, Awareness, Practicing Allyship, and Creating an Affirming Program)
    • Formation of an LGBTQ+ Ally workgroup that led efforts to update policies and practices found within the LGBTQ Supplement to the Elements of Effective Practice, which will include (at a minimum) implementation of:
      • Inclusivity/affirmation statement
      • Confidentiality policy
      • Anti-bullying policy
      • Updated screening policies to ensure safety for LGBTQ youth and volunteers
      • Matching policies that are inclusive of sexual orientation, gender identity, and expression
      • Training for volunteers to support critical moments such as coming out or transitioning
      • Referral links for young people and their parents/guardians to access additional care or resources
    • Participation of all Ally Workgroup Members in the organization's individual coaching session with facilitators
    • Completion by staff and board members of an Online Inclusivity Assessment
    • Participation in a community of practice which included engagement with other Allies in the cohort
    • Participation in quarterly cohort check-ins
    • Commitment to intentionally providing inclusive, affirming and safe mentoring and program culture for LGBTQ+ youth

Learn more about the initiative here.

LGBTQ Bigs FAQ

Thank you for your interest in being a mentor! Our mentors are diverse and celebrated as such.
If you do not see an answer to a question, you have below, please contact Tasha Bruns-Notsch (she/her) at 320.310.1276 or Tasha@BigDefenders.org.

Q. How do I know BBBS is a safe space for members of the LGBTQ community?

A. We pride ourselves on making BBBS of Central MN a safe place for everyone. Just as we welcome children and families from a diverse array of backgrounds, we welcome volunteers from every background as well. We believe that diversity and uniqueness are assets and by modeling this for youth, we help encourage them to be and believe in themselves. We recognize that the bias that exists in our culture puts LGBTQ youth (and adults) at a greater risk for negative health and safety outcomes, such as depression, bullying, homelessness, suicidality, and substance abuse. We also know that the best protective factor against these risks is for a youth to have a positive, supportive, consistent adult in their life. Be part of the solution by being a Big!

Q. Will there be a consistent staff person that I can rely on for any issues that arise during my match?
Q. If I am LGBTQ, do I have to be matched with an LGBTQ Little?
Q. What confidentiality policies do you have in place regarding LGBTQ Bigs, Littles, families, and matches?
Q. Will you use my pronouns?

A. You bet!

Q. Why does BBBS ask about my orientation and gender identity?
Q. How can I become an LGBTQ Ally within BBBS?
Q. What are appropriate boundaries for conversations regarding gender identity and orientation with my Little (either mine, theirs, or my opinion of others’)?
Q. Do I need to be LGBTQ to be matched with an LGBTQ Little?

A. Not at all! We have many wonderful Bigs that are LGBTQ Allies.

Q. What if I am LGBTQ, but I am not comfortable disclosing this to the agency during an interview to be a Big?
Q. I’ve been accepted into the program and am ready to be matched, but I’m wondering if the family will accept me?
How can I learn more about being a Big?
Q. Your organization is called "Big Brothers Big Sisters," can I be a mentor if I am trans, non-binary, or gender fluid?

A. Absolutely! At Big Brothers Big Sisters, we are looking for a diverse group of volunteers, including age, race, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, socioeconomic status, and ability. The youth and adults in our program represent a diverse array of all the above.

Q. If I, as a Big, disclose my gender identity or orientation to the agency, who will this information be shared with? Will the family of a Little know? What if I am LGBTQ, but I am not "out" in my own personal circle?
Q. If I am trans or non-binary, how would I be matched?

A. Upon matching, we would first consider your preferences and comfort level that you discussed with your Enrollment Coordinator during your interview. We then consider the needs and preferences of our waiting Littles to determine who may be the best fit for you. With every match, we first call and discuss the potential match with the mentor, and then (if mentor says "yes" to the match), we call and discuss the match with the family. It is important to us that everyone in a match will be accepted and respected for being themselves.

LGBTQ YOUTH/LITTLES AND FAMILIES FAQ

Thank you for your interest in joining our program! Our team is dedicated to serving youth from all walks of life.
If you have a question that has not been answered below, please contact Tasha Bruns-Notsch (she/her) at 320.310.1276 or Tasha@BigDefenders.org.

Q. My child has disclosed to me that they are LGBTQ, but they are not comfortable sharing this with anyone else yet. How do I approach this in regards to the program?

A. We absolutely respect your child’s privacy and their trust in you. You can let them know that BBBS of Central MN is a safe place for them, but you do not need to break their confidence and disclose their identity/orientation to us if it is against their wishes. At no point would we want you to "out" them to us if they are not ready. Rather, when discussing preferences, you may let us know that you are very open to (or interested in) an LGBTQ Big, if this is your child’s preference.

Q. I am a Little and I don’t feel safe at home or at school due to my gender/orientation, what do I do?
Q. I want to get a Big! How do I get started?
Q. Will the waiting period for my child to be matched be longer if my child discloses they are LGBTQ?

A. The waiting period is based on how many Bigs we have that have completed their enrollment process and if that Big’s personality, interests and preferences align with a Little’s. This process remains the same for all active waiting Littles who have completed their enrollment process.

Q. I think my child might be questioning, but I am not certain. Am I able to request an LGBTQ Big for them?
Q. My child has been matched for a while now, and just recently indicated that they have changed their pronouns, will their Big and the agency respect this?

A. Yes! Absolutely. If a Little has changed their pronouns, all you need to do is inform your Big and your Program Coordinator. Your Program Coordinator will be sure this is noted in their file and their pronouns will be respected.

Q. I am the parent/guardian and I am LGBTQ. Do I need to disclose this information?
Q. I am a Little in a match and want to come out to my Big, will they support me?

A. We know that coming out can be a very scary and intimidating process. However, you know your relationship with your Big better than anyone and you are wanting to come out to them for a reason. Trust your instincts and know that your Big is there to support you. However, if you are uncertain of how to approach this conversation with your Big, your Program Coordinator is always available to help guide you through this conversation, if you feel comfortable talking to them first. Your Program Coordinator can help you determine how you want to approach the conversation, what you want to say, what you think your Big’s reaction might be, and how you may respond to their reaction. BBBS of Central MN is a safe place for you and is here to support you.

Q. My child is matched, but has recently disclosed that they are trans and would like to go by a different name. Will the agency respect this?